This weekend I had the pleasure of seeing the movie Eat, Pray, Love again with some special girlfriends who I love dearly. I love this movie and it holds a special place in my heart as the book inspired me to follow in Elizabeth Gilbert's footsteps. I too had just gone through an ugly divorce and was struggling to feel something again and I decided to do something for me, something I had always wanted to do in an effort to somehow learn to forgive myself, to find myself and to feel something - anything but the deadness that had moved into my heart.
So I went to Italy, by myself for 3 weeks and I have to say that place is truly magical to me as well. The people, the lifestyle, the passion for living and loving is just nothing I had ever come close to experiencing. I truly believe they have found the secret to life - to live well, to love with all your heart and to treasure your family. Somehow here in the US, we seem to loose sight of what is so clear to them over there. I had spent my entire life building a life instead of living my life. I was constantly at battle with myself over everything. Always trying to find some imperfect perfection that could never be achieved. Perfection to the Italians is something they use to describe a meal not something they try to measure themselves by. They don't live their lives trying to control things actual they seem to embrace even the simplest of things and they do it with flair and style.
I learned to surrender, to stop fighting, to stop pushing myself so damn hard. I FINALLY realized that beating myself up my whole life had got me nowhere.... the only place it had brought me to was some serious unhappiness. One small decision after another, more unhappiness and yet a little more. Italy showed me that you can find happiness in a strangers smile. Happiness can be talking to your best friend, happiness can be in an embrace, happiness does not have to be complicated. Happiness isn't perfect. Happiness is a mindset. You get to chose who you are. You get to chose how you show up. You get to chose who you love. You get to chose how you live your live. This actually reminds me of a quote from the book: "There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts."
— Elizabeth Gilbert
So I'm here to tell you first hand, nothing beats living your life full of passion, love and being the person you are. Stop trying to be someone who you are not, stop trying to be someone who others expect you to be, stop trying to please everyone else, just be the you who you truly are and you will discover that life has some of the most incredible gifts if you are open to accepting them.
Till next time,