“Good” Friends Are A Gift You Give Yourself

You know you are blessed in your life when your friends and family see you as more than you do.  You know that you are blessed when people want more for you than they want for themselves.  And you know you are blessed when these amazing people in your life hold you to a higher standard.  They remind you to follow your dreams and to not settle for anything less than who you can be.

It’s never easy chasing dreams no matter how big or small.  It takes guts, courage, strength, sacrifice, and love to believe that you deserve the opportunity to bring these things into your reality.  You have to put down your fears of the unknown.  You have to put down your fears of self-doubt.   You have to put down your fears that you you simply aren’t enough.  And, throw caution to the wind and  JUST GO FOR IT, even if everyone thinks you are crazy or they don’t understand.  

For far to long in my life I tried to please everyone, I tried to put my wants and needs second to everyone else’s and the only thing that got me was a lifetime of feeling like I was somehow less than I could have been.  It wasn’t until I realized that what I wanted and what I thought was important even if no one else thought so.  One of the hardest truths  for me to realize was that I was the only one that I had to face in the mirror and explain myself to.  Ya see when you stop listening to your heart and you kill your own spirit - you are only half of the person that you can be.  And as a half a person, you can never find happiness, you don’t believe in yourself and you rarely  follow through on your dreams .

So I have to say now when friends and family don’t understand my choices I just smile and no longer feel the need to change their minds.  That is their opinion, its not mine.  I appreciate them, I’m happy that they are in my life but they don’t live my life.  They are not me.  There job is not to always understand me, but to love me and support me.  I no longer live my life looking for approval and needing to please everyone anymore cause you can never make everyone happy.    The only thing that did was burn me out and left me feeling empty.  Empty because I didn’t try and believe in myself enough to go for what I wanted.  

There is a Gabonese Proverb that says “Bad friends prevent you having good friends”.  Good friends love you no matter what. Good friends push you to be better than you are.  Good friends challenge you.  And a good friend believes in you even when you don’t.  So don’t let bad friends hold you back because they are jealous, envious, or simply don’t understand.  Be your own best friend and surround yourself with lots and lots of good friends.  “Good” friends are a gift that you give to yourself - my update to Robert Louis Stevenson’s famous quote.  And love those friends who stop you from remembering who you are from afar. 

Life is too short to be half of the person you can be.

Till next time,

Lisa