First of all when was the last time you felt beautiful? Do you have a specific outfit? shirt? jacket? dress? something that you wear that you think “Gee I feel beautiful” and if feeling beautiful is a stretch for you have you - ever thought you felt “cute”? Do you even know what pretty even feels like? For far too long I was so mortified with how I looked, embarrassed by myself because I was so use to beating myself up about how my body turned out that I actually put words in other people’s mouths that they never said instead of bettering my thoughts in my own head. Have you ever done that? Has your brain ever taken over and had a conversation for you? I think it comes with years of unhappiness and everyone who I have met who isn’t happy with themselves has had these type of conversations.
But what I have learned is that even if I have the most gorgeous, fantastic and expensive clothes in my closet if I don’t like the me in them I’m never gonna be pretty. So you can dress me up but you can’t take the ugly out of me cause its stuck in my head. It wasn’t until I finally learned to turn down that voice did I ever learn to feel not bad, to okay, to kinda cute, to cute, to adorable and to finally pretty. And I tell you it is a revelation to feel pretty on a regular basis. Truth is we all have things in our closet that can be pretty if we only allow our brain to function that way. When was the last time your brain thought you were pretty? or that your makeup looked good? or your hair looked nice? or that dress was not bad?
My next question is when you feel pretty or cute do you carry yourself differently into the world? Do people react to you differently when you carry yourself in a different manner? And the answer is absolutely. When you are confident and when you carry yourself with an air of self esteem not only do you treat yourself better but so does the world around you. So why is it that we rarely make the effort to feel pretty? Why is it that we fail to take the time to take care of ourselves so that we can put our best foot forward?
I know absolutely when I am dressed like a bum so to speak, I feel crappy, I tend to eat crappy, look crappy, act and react to people in a negative or really nonchalant way. And I also know that when I take a few extra minutes and put some great makeup on, do my hair and put on something that I’m not hiding my body in, I actually have a better day. I actually am in a better mood, I actually am way more positive and therefore attract more positiveness to my life from here. But some days it feels like I just can’t? So my question is why can’t I? Why can’t we make a concerted effort to feel pretty about yourself every day? To turn down that voice in our heads and be the best pretty we can be today? No judgment just be pretty that is my goal everyday. I strive to like one think about my appearance every day. Want to play with me? How cool would it be if we learned to appreciate ourself a little bit more every single day? A little self confidence goes a long way. :)
Till next time.