How is it that we can be competent in our lives, we can handle just about anything that life has to throw at us, we can juggle a million things at one time yet we still feel somehow inadequate within ourselves? How is it that possible when so many people depend on us and look to us for so much yet when the world quiets down around us we are not happy with the person looking back at ourselves in the mirror? I have to say I use to live here, I use to be Superwoman so to speak for everyone else but myself. I use to forget to put myself on my own to do list of 50 things in a day. After some serious life changing events that occurred in my life I have finally learned to rearrange my priorities and have put me on my own to-do list. This is a hugely important step as I have talked about before, but what I have also come to understand that just by adding myself to a laundry list of things to do that’s not enough - its only a start.
Its only the start because you have to follow through everyday. You have to make a conscious decisions everyday to be true to you. You have to actually retrain your brain that you are important - that what you want is important. As a natural caregiver it is so easy to sacrifice yourself for others. Its almost automatic for me to just put love ones before me that this takes some serious focus and some serious time just to figure out what I need today. I have found that when you just go through the motions of the day, when you get into a routine and you get busy - I never have time for myself. There just are not enough hours in the day. I take time. I take scheduling. I take planning. And the truth is somedays you just feel like you do enough of that in your day and that you are exhausted and you just can’t do one more thing. And I have come to realize that this is BS, seriously. You make time for what is important in your life. You can move freaken mountains if we have to. We all know we have, we have all looked back at days or times in our life where you were like how did I do all that? The truth is when we get in the zone and time just flies. So I am here to remind you that its time to get you into your own zone. Its time to make sure that you plan time for you. First thing in the morning map out your day or do it the night before and figure out how to squeeze out time for you and/or move things around to take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Get up earlier, plan some quiet time, or go to bed a little later whatever it is that works for you. I can promise you that it is worth it. You are worth it. Cause when you make time for you and you get into the habit of making time for you, you will begin to feel differently about yourself. You will carry yourself differently. You will handle things differently. You will be able to actually take care of more things when you have already taken care of you. You will find yourself in a more positive frame of mind. You will begin to appreciate things again. And the coolest thing is you will actually start to feel more confident and more secure within yourself when you make better choices on a consistent basis. You deserve to walk around every day feeling confident, don’t you think? Give yourself the gift of confidence, it is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself. I guarantee you that you will see your life through new eyes when you give yourself this gift and so will others. So make time for you, every day it is soooooo important and you are more than worth it and its about time to remember that - don’t ya think?
Till next time,