Have you ever made a promise to yourself that tomorrow would be different? that tomorrow you would exercise? that tomorrow you would eat better? that tomorrow you would make better choices? I think we all do this to ourselves all of the time and its a really bad practice to get into. When you can’t keep your own promises to yourself, what do you think that does to your own self-esteem? to your own belief in yourself? and to that annoying voice in the back of your head that always reminds you that you are not good enough? It gives them power over yourself - you make that damn voice louder in your head cause you’ve given it more references to remind you why you can’t succeed the next time you fully intend to. And quite honestly, I’m beyond sick of the crap that makes its way into my brain when I’m trying a new challenge or trying something completely new for the first time.
I finally have learned to turn down the volume of this negative voice - a friend of mine calls this voice the “Wizard” its not magical in any way but it sure seems to think it knows all doesn’t it? It sure has an unsolicited opinion about everything I want to do. I’ve learned that when I really want something, I get excited and start to make moves in a positive direction but then the “Wizard” magically shows up. And the question is - why and where does he come from? The “Wizard” is simply all of your fears and insecurities all rolled up in one really loud voice. And it seems the more you have given into this voice - the louder he thinks he is and the more influence he has over you. The absolutely only way to turn down his volume is to keep on going after what I want and to reach my goals. The more goals I reach the less power he has over me and the less and less I pay attention to him.
So I started small and learned to keep the promises that I make to me and this absolutely keeps me in check. It reminds me to make sure my goals are realistic cause every time I follow through the “Wizard” has less and less power to influence me. And as the goals get bigger they are so much easier to reach when there isn’t a really loud, annoying voice playing in your head giving you a laundry list of why you’ll never have what you want. What do you think, want to play with me and turn off your own “wizard” in your own head? We’ve all heard the saying “to thine own self be true” I’d like to add keep the promises you make to yourself, they are greatest and simplest gift you can give to yourself.
Till next time,