Yesterday, I went to the Palm Beach International Film Festival to see Tony Robbins movie that will be coming out on Netflix in early summer, I’m not your Guru. Having been a Tony person for a few decades now, I have to say this man never ceases to amaze me and inspire me with his compassion, his commitment to people and sheer obsession to help people in pain.
Tony has seen me through some dark times in my past hating myself, Daddy issues, marrying the WRONG man for all the wrong reasons, not liking the person who I had become, blaming myself for a whole host of bad decisions that I made when I was completely numb and felt dead inside. I had lost sight of who I am and what was important to me. And, Tony has helped me pick myself up, dust myself off and find the strength and the determination to try yet again.
So I’m not sure why I was so surprised that while I was sitting in this quaint little theater filled with many other Tony peeps, sobbing my eyes out that I had yet another breakthrough. In the film, Tony was talking about how everyone in the room has one thing in common, we all have problems and we all don’t believe we should have them. Problems are what make us who we are. We all have these stories we tell ourselves and how we all blame certain people in our lives for this, this and this. That if they would have loved you or taken better care of you or whatever you needed, that your situation would be different and you wouldn’t have the problems that you do today. That’s true but and here is the big BUT… you also wouldn’t be the person you are today without them. So you have to blame them for all the good as well. Let me say that again, you have to BLAME THEM FOR ALL THE GOOD AS WELL.
You have to blame them for your ability to keep getting up, you have to blame them for your strength, you have to blame them for your tenacity, you have to blame them for your courage, you have to blame them for your heart, you have to blame them for your ability to forgive, you have to blame them for your ability to find a way, etc. You have to blame them for who you have become because if it weren’t for them and the situation/problem that you had in your past, you wouldn’t be the person who you are today, without them. You can’t just blame all the bad on them, you have to blame all the good that became of that/those situations. They made you, who you are today.
When you stop and reflect on your life and on your circumstances and who you are today, what you bring to this world, what your passions are, what you value most in life, what you refuse to accept, what your gifts are…. you realize that without your past, you would not be you.
I have never been one to dwell on the past, I have let things go, I have forgiven, I have moved on, I never give up, I always try to find the lessons in things and everyday I strive for a better today than yesterday but I never really knew where that came from. I never understood where my heart comes from and today I surprisingly did. Where does your heart come from? Who do you need to blame for all the good that you have become?
It’s been a humbling day as I also realized that all the anger that I have held onto about myself regarding several poor decisions that I have made in the past, that I also have to blame myself for all the lessons learned and good that came from those previously bad choices. And, I sure as hell wouldn’t be the woman that I am today without having made those choices. How about you, who would you be without the lessons you have learned in your life?
Now you might be thinking but what does any of this have to do with gluten, having celiac disease or being gluten sensitive? And, I’ll tell you, it has everything to do with how you approach a new challenge, i.e. your diagnosis. It has everything to do with how you see your new gluten-free diet as something that is impossible or do you have this. It has everything to do with how you handle stressful situations, do you keep fighting or do you cave. It has everything to do with are you willing to put in the work to learn to be better and do better or is everything too complicated. It has everything to do with if you will ultimately heal your body or if you will cheat often and keep harming yourself…..
Who we are are a combination of the choices that we make. We may not always understand the reasoning behind some of those decisions (and today was a big ah ha for me) but how we approach anything in life, I believe helps determine our outcome. If I believe that I can do something, than I find a way to. If I believe that I can’t do something, than I will always find an excuse or a reason why something won’t work. What you believe about yourself is the key to what you can achieve in your life.
So thank you to my mentor, Tony Robbins for once again reminding me of the value of my heart and who I am. And, it goes without saying I highly recommend seeing the movie when you get a chance.
Should you need some additional inspiration, tips, or have questions I'm here to help, check out my blog, or even my book if you need more information (it’s full of goodies) Gluten Free Guide to a Healthy-Do-Over.