What To Do When Your Husband Isn’t Supportive?

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Okay let me start by saying, I am divorced and when my health hit a major roadblock my husband eventually bailed for other reasons so I am not be the best one to answer this question but here is goes, anyway.

Talk to him. Most likely he is scared. Your health has had to have been an issue for a while. According to the Journal of Medicine, “Every time the disease is clinically diagnosed in an adult, that person has foe decades had the disease in a latent or silent stage.”

Everything is going to have to change, what you eat, how you cook and quite honestly it’s a lot for you to grasp, how about for someone who doesn’t truly get it. All he knows is you may never cook his favorite dinner ever again.

Going gluten-free is a process and it takes time for taste buds to change. It takes time for you to get a handle on things. And, it will take time for his to understand that you will be okay health-wise now that you know what is going on with you. He needs you to be vigilant about your health and to take care of yourself but he also needs to know that you will still be there for him too. He needs to know that you have got this, he needs for you to be proactive with your health and he needs for you to get this cooking thing down. He is worried about you. He just may not know how to articulate this.

The best thing you can do is include him in the process. Make it fun, try new recipes together. Leave around some of your books so that he can check out some of the tips. Share your favorite blogs with him. Get him to help shop with you or get him to stop and pick up some things and give him the name brands. He needs to know that he can help you.

From my experience when men feel like they aren’t needed or that they can’t help you or don’t know how to help you - they don’t always ask. But that doesn’t mean they won’t help you, if you show them how to help you.

And right now with everything changing they have no clue what you need. Some men will give you space and time to figure things out, some men will hover, some men will check-out and find odd jobs around the house to do. No two men are the same, just as no two women are the same. We all need and want different things and the best way to get your husband to support you is to tell him how he can, now. You have to fill in the blanks for him and make the correlations of how sick you have felt and now you know why. It’s gonna take some time but now you need to work on healing and this eventually will get easier.

Hope this helps answer your question, dear reader. Feel free to share your thoughts and feelings on this below. And if you have a question of your own, click the ask a question button and I’ll do my best to answer soon.