Where Do You Live Your Life?

Why is it that one person can seem to drown in a cup of water and another person can swim in the ocean and never let anything bother them? Why is it that one person can defy the odds and another person barely slides by? What is it that makes one person absolutely extraordinary and another person just average?

Theses are just a few of the questions that have come up recently in my life in an effort to make a difference and to help people changes their lives for the better. I have to say it is one of the most difficult things for me to do - is to watch another person give up on their own potential and life. When someone gives up on themselves it not only robs yourself of following your goals or dreams; but, it also robs all of those around you of all that you have to offer. I know we have all heard this in one version of another. It was not until recently that I fully understood the importance and magnitude of that statement.

Have you ever given up on yourself? Ever decided that you weren't worth the effort? Or have you ever thought that what you think doesn't make a difference? The truth is all of these make a huge difference to yourself. When you treat yourself badly, you don't value your own thoughts, how can you expect someone else to treat you any differently?

When you live your life never standing up for what you believe in or what you want that you live less of a life. When you accept that this is the best your life can be you settle and loose a little piece of your soul.

We are all only given one life, there are only twenty-four hours in a day that is about all that is equal for all of us. Some of us live long happy lives. Some live only a few moments. There are several million versions and variations in between the key to life is to make the most of the time that you do have. To create a life that you love whatever that looks like to you. Creating a life that you love looks different to everyone and that is what makes the world go around and what makes us all so unique. Life is constantly changing, growing and about becoming more.

Where you live in your head, what you focus on, what you tell yourself every day is what creates the life that you life. No one else can make you happy, only you can do that. Happiness can not come when you treat yourself badly, when you give up on yourself or when you stop listening to your heart. Happiness and creating a life takes courage and faith in yourself when no one else is looking or listening.

Lisa Marichal is an Expert Body Image Consultant, Speaker and Writer who helps women and girls realize their own potential and gifts within themselves. You can visit her at [http://healthydoover.com/articles/] to learn more.

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5 Steps For Creating Your Own Truths

Why is it sometimes so hard to accept the truth? Why is it easier to hide from the truth? Or is it that we are just hiding from ourselves? Hiding from what we want to do but are truly terrified to do just that? When is enough, enough? When do you finally say "I can't do this any more?" When do you finally step up and take responsibility for your life?

We all have moments of clarity, we all have moments in our lives that we wish things could be different and we all know that change is inevitable so why then is it so scary? Would you rather live your life going through the motions or be honest and say this is not working for me?

These are some of the questions that I too had to answer, when I realized that my life was not at all anything that I had hoped for, had dreamed of or had even wanted. I was angry all the time, snapped at everyone and was just plain miserable on an every day basis.Yet, the idea that my whole life could all change if I spoke up - took me a while to find the courage to say so even to myself. Because what if it is worse? What if I could have or should have done more? These are all the questions that run through your head; but, the question is are they really questions or are you letting your fear of the unknown hold you back and be your excuse?

Being honest with yourself is always the first step to create any kind of lasting change. Honesty is truly one of life's greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Honesty takes courage, takes faith, takes forgiveness and takes love in and of yourself.

Once you have been honest, second sit with the situation and look at it from all sides. Don't make it better and don't make it worse, just let it be. It takes practice to do this because if you are anything like me, you lived in denial for a long time so seeing the truth was uncomfortable and hurt more than I expected. It hurt because I got angry at myself for not doing this sooner. I could have saved myself so much more pain had I dealt with things instead of suppressing them years earlier.

Third step is to make some decisions. Decisions as to what you want, what you don't, what you can accept and what you will no longer. It is important to be really clear here. Be in the moment and take some time. Sometimes thinking about what you want is really hard to do when you have had to push your hopes, dreams and life to the side to just survive the day.

Next step, is to decide what is your worst case scenario. What can you not live with? I'm a firm believer in knowing my own limits or creating boundaries even for myself. This is a tricky place to be and you should not spend very much time here. I know my brain can run endless marathons of what if's and it is super easy to get stuck here so it is hugely important to not to spend much time here.

After you know what you want, where you want to go and what you will not accept, the last step is possibly the toughest thing you may ever have to do and that is say it out loud. Talking to someone and sharing your thoughts, your hopes, your dreams, your heart is always scary; but, in this case you have to understand that you are going to surprise your significant other by speaking so openly. They may not be ready for this conversation, they may fight you on facing their own truths let alone yours. If you think giving them some time to work this out for themselves as well may be beneficial, by all means allow them the time to do so. But, it is extremely important to make a firm deadline to have this conversation. However, if they are living in denial as much as you, it may be necessary to just say what you need to because they will not give you another chance. No matter how you say it, it is going to hurt but once the initial hurt is gone, they have some time to digest what you have said and have had some time to come to their own conclusions, they will appreciate your honesty and your courage. And, this will help you moving forward either to fix your relationship or to shape it into a different kind of relationship.

I can tell you from experience that tomorrow does get better. That once you clear the air to yourself and with your significant other it allows you to move forward. Being honest with yourself and another is truly the greatest gift that you can ever give. Living life honestly is truly part of living your best life.

 

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3 Simple Shopping Tips To Always Look Your Best

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As a woman, I have been there and I understand this but as a Stylists you just shop differently with a new perspective. Certain designers cuts can be really, really different. One designers size six could be another designers size ten, vice versa and lots of variations in-between. So when I am shopping with a client, I always tell them it is not about the size on the label, it is about how you feel, how you look in a particular outfit that matters. I always grab a minimum of three sizes sometimes four sizes and bring them into the dressing room to try on. Start with the your size and then grab one size smaller and one or two sizes larger depending on the cut of the item. In order to look your best, often your best friend will be a really good tailor.

Which would you prefer to do? Squeeze yourself into a size six dress and look like you are a size ten or buy a size ten and look like you are a size six?

Here are three simple shopping tips to always looking your best. First, choose good quality clothes that can be a staple in your wardrobe and you can continually add to. (For example: dress pants, pencil skirts, and dresses in solid neutral colors).

Second, do not follow the trends of today. Find clothes that look good on you, on your body and choose accessories on trend not the other way around (Or you will have a closet full or neon and parachute pants and you will be stuck in an area. Yes everything comes back around but by then it will need a serious facelift and in the meantime you will look seriously dated and just wrong.)

Lastly, what you wear underneath your clothes is just as important as your clothes. Investing in the right bra so that the girls sit up and are in the right place will make your shirts, blouses, dresses and jackets all look completely different. And, the best part is can make you look pounds lighter. Wearing the correct undies for your body type is important as well because you don't want to be hanging out and hanging over every where. Panty lines are not attractive and neither is someone wearing a thong where everything giggles. A fantastic secret that should be part of every ladies arsenal are shapers, you know "Spanks baby". There are all kinds with different levels of support and they should absolutely be worn on a daily basis. They make a tremendous difference in how polished you come across. And, lets face it, nothing like a shaper to help your posture, keep your shoulders back and stomach tucked in. You just feel more confident when you know you look your best and you have made your best effort.

These are the basics to shopping and creating a fabulous wardrobe that will sustain you for years to come, so have fun with it.

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Is the Economy Having a Negative Impact on Your Weight?

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Stress is defined by Wikipedia as a term that is commonly used today but has become increasingly difficult to define. It shares, to some extent, common meanings in both the biological and psychological sciences. Stress typically describes a negative concept that can have an impact on one's mental and physical well-being, but it is unclear what exactly defines stress and whether or not stress is a cause, an effect, or the process connecting the two. With organisms as complex as humans, stress can take on entirely concrete or abstract meanings with highly subjective qualities, satisfying definitions of both cause and effect in ways that can be both tangible and intangible.

In other words, no one can really say exactly what stress is and no one can tell how it is going to look on you or me. It looks different on each of us. But I can attest to one of the huge negative effects stress has had on my body and the bodies of several women like me. One of the first signs that I am stressed out is I start to gain a few pounds and before I know it a few more pounds, even if I'm exercising. But, if I'm honest most of the time exercising isn't something I do because I am simply too tired.When you constantly worry, cannot turn off your brain, you begin to make not so great food choices you gravitate towards comfort food like a heading bowl of mac and cheese instead of a salad. And, then we wonder why we have no energy or desire to exercise.

Personally stress becomes an excuse and a trap that I often fall into because there are just some days that you are absolutely exhausted mentally and physically; but, there is a difference between your body being tired and your brain being tired. It's when you make matters worse and you add to the problem. You do this by shoveling crap in your mouth. But for me it is like an on-going merry-go-round because I know better so then, I beat myself up for eating bad and before you know it a few more pounds have magically appeared. Have you been there? Are you there now?

Unfortunately, if you continue down this path long enough your body will start to break down, break apart and that is when you will start to have health complications and get sick, really sick. Stress and all that comes with it, the consequences and the side effects, I believe are far more deadly than the medical field can pin point. All I know is that heart disease, cancer, liver disorders, diabetes and stress cannot live in a body that is not full of stress and disease.

So the answer that I have found that works best for me is that when my life is full of stress and I begin to feel out of control, I know this is my wake up call and my call to pay attention. This is the most critical time to take time of myself. Time to make eating healthy and exercising even more of a priority because it is the only way to balance out the stress that has been added. And, what is the side effect to this? It is to actually feel better about myself, which actually helps you feel like you have more control of your own life and the life you are living so guess what you reduce your stress level.

I certainly have lived life both ways and after spending years trying to rebuild my health back, I can honestly tell you that I would never go back to stuffing down my fears in a plate of spaghetti. How about you? What do you stuff your fears down with? And, isn't it time you give yourself a chance at a better life? Give yourself better tools to live a happier and healthier life.

Lisa Marichal is an Expert Body Image Consultant, Speaker and Writer who helps women and girls realize their own potential and gifts within themselves. You can visit her at [http://healthydoover.com/articles/] to learn more.

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Love Is All Around Us

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Love is not turning yourself inside out and upside down for another. Love is not hiding pieces of who you are for another. Love is not making yourself small to make another happy. Love is not about keeping things the same. Love is not about sacrificing yourself for another. Love is not settling for less of a life than you deserve.

Love is about being patient with one another. Love is about being kind and taking care of one another. Love is about trying to be understanding and seeing things from each other's perspective. Love is about giving of yourself without wanting or expecting anything in return. Love is about supporting each other. Love is about being there to work your struggles through together. Love is about laughter and giggles together. Love is wanting the absolute best for each other. Love encourages you to grow and be the best version of you, that you can be. Love is constantly evolving.

Finding that kind of love is something I think we all aspire to. I think it is something we all dream about and is the plot to most romance novels and chick flicks. We all are looking for our happily ever after but do you recognize it when you have it? Do you take care of it? Do you treasure it for the absolutely amazing gift that it is?

Or are we too busy chasing love that you miss the love that is right in front of our own eyes? Do you even believe that love lasts? Do you believe that it somehow skipped me? Do you believe that the relationship that you are in, is that the best you can do? Do you believe you can make love better? Do you believe that you even deserve to be loved?

It doesn't matter how young or old we are, we are all looking to share our lives with, to give our hearts to and to make someone's day brighter, just because we are. Love is not perfect and it takes time. Love takes commitment and honesty even when it is uncomfortable. And real and true love, gives you the courage it takes to face the most difficult times in your life, to forgive and to let go of the things that we hold on to way too long. Love is not a fairy tale but is truly the most precious gift you can ever give to another. So look for love it is around us every day. Give love freely. Tell those that are special to you just how much they mean to you. And lastly, treat your love with the respect and gratitude they deserves because you never know when it could be your last chance.

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What's Your Non-Negotiable Time?

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As women, I think it's part of our DNA to nurture, to take care of, to want to make things better for the ones we love. So we often take on projects and things that we shouldn't. Saying "No" is not part of our vocabularies. Learning to say "No" is an acquired skill and is really hard to say when someone is depending on you.

But, in most cases you have taught them to depend on you because you always handle everything. You have become the magician for everyone in your life. So the idea of setting time aside for yourself in a lot of ways seems wrong and seems like you just couldn't or shouldn't do that. But, the question becomes who is looking out for you? Who is taking care of you, if you won't? The answer is no one.

Often as women we have the need to please. Helping and becoming indispensable to another gives us purpose and makes us feel wanted; but, we have it all wrong. The only person who you are indispensable to is you.

Teaching everyone in your life to depend on you and only you, is robbing them of the gift of learning responsibility for themselves and is also in the process robbing you of having a life. No one can be everything to everyone - let alone whole families, friends, neighbors, business associates, clients, etc. When we feel the need to take care of everyone and everything we are often searching for valuation in others. Validation for doing a good job, being appreciated, and for helping out. But, what we fail to understand is that we do not need validation for all these things, what we are really searching for is love. This is the only way we feel we can come close.

When you learn to love yourself for who you are not for what you can do for everyone, it will make an enormous difference in all the relationships in your life.

I'm certainly not saying you should not be helpful, loving, nurturing, kind and truly delightful; but, I am saying that it starts with you. If you never take time out for yourself and you make yourself the martyr for taking on everything then where does it end? When do you get to realize how wonderful you truly are just for you being you, not for the laundry list of things you achieve for another? And when you run yourself ragged and you feel completely run down and empty on the inside how does that serve anyone? That is not living that is just sacrificing for others. A life full of sacrifice is certainly not the same as living a life that is fulfilling and full of love. There is a huge difference. What kind of life do you lead? I know I have lived both.

Setting aside some time for yourself every day goes a long way to living a fulfilling life because it allows you to fill you up first. It allows you to take the time you need to feel good about yourself, what you have accomplished in your life and then by extension your family. So when you move forward from this place there is a tremendous difference in who you are, what you are able to contribute to your family and your world. It's okay to say "No" once in a while, it is okay to set time aside just for you.

In my own life, I have five non-negotiable times each day. One is to workout, two is to make time to eat well (shopping and cooking), three is to take care of my health (appointments and rehab when needed), four is time for my family and five is time for my significant other (time to connect just us). And I have to say, since I have started saying "No" more all of my relationships with the most important people in my life have deepened.

What are your non-negotiable times? And once you've started implementing this is your life, how has it changed you and your relationships, I would love to hear?

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Other's People's Judgment - Why Does It Hurt Us So?

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And my question to you is what right did they have to judge you in the first place? Why does their opinion matter over another? Is their life so unflawed and perfect that they feel by judging you that they are trying to make you a better person or are they just trying to make themselves and their own life feel better?

Now I realize that these are some pretty tough questions but when you stop and ask them, it might surprise you the answer's you really come up with. I know it did me. Some people in my life, have often very disapproving and critical of me and I have to say trying to distance myself from them is never easy when they are important to you.

But, what I have come to realize is that you have a choice how to perceive what a person says about you. In the past, I would swallow what they told me, take it very much to heart and would use it as a weapon to beat myself up as further proof that I was not good enough, that I was not pretty enough, that I was not smart enough, that I was not skinny enough, that I was not perfect enough and on and on. I used other people's judgments of me not only as incentive to do better but as a continual pattern of abuse of myself any time I fell short of any goal in my life, realistic or not.

So then the question would be if the person who judged you harshly in the first place did they mean to hurt you to your core? Did they mean for you to use their judgment to do permanent damage to you and in such a way that you constantly feel less than you are? I think sometimes people judge others but never fully understand how deeply their words can hurt another and the long-term effects that it can have on another. I always try to believe the best in others but what I have learned about myself is that I often do not believe the best in me. As, I have held on to many untruths and judgments that were made about me many years ago.

We have all heard the saying "stick and stones can break my bones but names will never hurt me" I totally disagree, I think sometimes its the names that you carry for a lifetime that scar us the most.

But, what we have to learn to do is to stop letting another's opinion of you matter so much. Only you can determine what something means to you, no one else can do that. You have that power. Everyone has an opinion and you will not be liked or loved by everyone so the key is to stop trying to please another, you can only please yourself, you can only live your life on your own terms, and you can only be the best you that you can be. Sally Field says, "It takes me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes" and I think that's a lesson we can all learn.

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Valentine's Day- What Is Your Choice?

I'm not exactly sure what it is about Valentine's Day, but it is a day that cuts to the very core of who I am a true and hopeless romantic. Honestly, I always seems to amaze even me that I still somehow manage to get excited at this time of year. That I still hold hope in my heart that this one will be different. That this one will be special. Traditionally, in my world Valentine's Day have not been all that kind to me. One sticks out in particular, that was one with my lawyer discussing my divorce. Certainly one I will never forget and that left a permanent mark on my heart. But, I still choose to believe in love, I still choose to believe that my bad luck in my Valentine's of my past have absolutely no bearing on my Valentine's of my future. And, I choose to be happy!

Having a great Valentine's Day has little to do with your current status as a couple I have finally learned. On a day filled with pink and red, why not play along and do things that make you happy. Do things that bring a smile to your face and warm your heart. Why not treat yourself as you want to be treated? Why not love you enough to buy yourself some flowers, or make a date with friends, or plan a spa day to pamper yourself, or buy yourself a new purse or a matching pair of shoes. Give yourself the gift that you wish, he would. Who ever said you couldn't be thoughtful to yourself?

Don't pick apart the relationship that you do have even if he isn't the most romantic. Romance is something that you can create as well. Some guys don't have a clue what women think are romantic and truth be told what works for one woman may not work for another so they need a little help sometimes. If you are lucky enough to spend Valentine's Day with someone special, if they make an effort, if they show you how important you are to them, then you have been truly blessed. Then you should cherish them, enjoy your time together and do something special for them as well. Go that extra mile and make sure they know how much they are loved and how much they mean to you. That's truly what the day is all about.

I have spent way to many Valentine's Day waiting for the perfect man, perfect evening, perfect gift and I'm here to say that nothing is perfect. Your life is not a romance novel but your life is yours and striving for perfect that is not attainable only leads to heartache.

And, if you don't have a special romantic partner that is perfectly okay too. Do something special for the people you love, your parents, your kids or your friends. There is nothing like brightening another person's day because you made them something from your heart to theirs. Don't walk around all sad and depressed because you don't have anyone special in your life. The truth is your not ready because when you are really, really ready to put down your anger, to put down your disappointment, to put down your fear and to put down your story, he will come.

Happiness is a choice. Love is a choice. And choosing to want more in your life is also a choice. So what choice are you making this Valentine's Day? I hope you choose to be happy!

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Sexy Lingerie Your Secret Source of Femininity

Every woman has different kinds of lingerie in her dresser drawers. We pull out the fabulous ones for a special occasion, certain date nights with our significant others or simply because we have run out of the others and it is past time to do laundry. And, if you are like me, you even have a few still with the tags on so you can be ready at the right moment should it present itself.

As women we often get caught up in being every thing to everyone that we often forget to take time out for ourselves, let alone remember to take time out to feel feminine or beautiful and that is part of the problem. This is a problem not only for ourselves but for our husbands/boyfriends/significant others, our kids, or family, our friends and our careers. The reason this becomes a problem is because when we disconnect from ourselves, we also disconnect from everyone else in our lives whether we realize it or not. We just keep pushing and pushing to get everything done, we rarely ask for help as we take on the role of Wonder Woman.

Wonder Woman has becoming known in society as a symbol of women's strength, power and sexuality equality but what we as women tend to forget is that she was a symbol of sex appeal and sexiness. You do remember what her outfit looked like bustier, hot pants and high boots right? When was the last time you could pull off an outfit like that - if ever?

My point here is to remind you that a little sexiness goes a long way. Being sexy is not about in your face cleavage that is hanging out and walking around your neighborhood in hot pants and too tight clothes, there is something in-between that we often forget it's called subtle sexiness. Everyone can add a little subtle sexiness to your life and I'm sure you will be surprised how easy it is to do and will be pleasantly taken back by the results. I know I was after I tried a little experiment.

My experiment went like this, for two weeks I decided I would wear all of my sexy lingerie that I owned just for me and see if I noticed a difference in how I felt about myself and how I related to others. And, I have to say I honestly felt different, carried myself different, felt more confident and feeling this way it led me to take a few more minutes in the morning on my make-up or my hair, I added two workouts that week which only made me feel even more fabulous. The best part was my interactions with everyone in my life just went smoother as I was more gentle which shocked the heck out of me.

So at the end of my little experiment I pitched all my granny panties, all the not so nice ones, all the ones that didn't flatter my figure and now every few months I add a few more really pretty ones to my repertoire. It's like I walk around every day with my own secret source of femininity. What is your secret source of your femininity? Try your own experiment and let me know if it makes a difference in your life.

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Working In Your Pajamas - Good Thing or Bad Thing?

Working in your pajamas certainly has an appeal to most people, it is just the thought that seems so lovely and makes most of us smile. I'm not sure if it is the not having to get up and get dressed, put any make-up on, do your hair or see anyone that just sounds like heaven to so many of us. The problem is when you do work from home and you are trying to run a business it certainly is an easy trap to fall into.

If it is a once in a while thing when you feel like crap and you stay in your pajamas for a few extra hours on a day when you would have normally called in sick to a regular 9 to 5 job that's one thing. But when it becomes part of your every day pattern it is definitely not a good thing.

When you work from home and you own your own business it is imperative that you create healthy every day rituals and creative outlets that allow you to be as productive as you possible can. These are basic keys to success so getting dressed really just seems like a no brainer, doesn't it? Somehow you just can not be as productive on a daily basis when you can be ready for a nap at a moments notice. And, for sure on days when nothing seems to be going according to your plan are you not more apt to take a nap and escape since you are already dressed for bed, then push through the pain of whatever you are working on?

The problem is when you have your business on the brain 24/7, I have to say I find myself falling into this trap myself when I start my day with a cup of coffee at my computer. I get so wrapped up and I have a tendency to lose track of time and before I know it, it is 2:00p.m., I haven't had breakfast, let alone lunch, haven't showered, my hair is in a ponytail, no make-up, look like I just rolled out of bed, because I did several hours ago and God help you if the doorbell rings, you might as well die if you are the only one home.

Some people would think this is not necessarily a problem and would be happy that you were productive for x number of hours and that would be true. However, when you actually make the time in the morning to actually take care of yourself, get showered, dressed, a little make-up, do your hair, workout and have a little food it makes a world of difference. You can actually be two sometimes three times more productive and for many more hours when you make time for yourself. Plus you never have to worry about a client real or potential one coming to the door and having to hide. I know that is not a concern for men, but for women I know you understand where I am coming from. I'm not about to open the door looking like hell, I'd rather say sorry I missed them then come across as completely unprofessional looking like a college student who has been studying for days.

So the real question to ask yourself about working in your pajamas is: Are they holding you back from being as productive as you can be because they are super comfy and you might be a wee bit lazy? Being lazy and super productive and successful don't go hand in hand no matter how many times you try to justify or spin it. So just say no to working in your pajamas. Great in theory but not great in practice.

 

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Image in the mirror

Why is it that the image in the mirror never seems to measure up?

Having a health body image can do more for your confidence and your success in all areas of your life than money, a great body and the perfect job.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, who do you see?  Do you see your fine lines on your face? the bags under your eyes? your sagging whatever? your ugly whatever? your too round whatever? your not small enough whatever? and too big whatever? why do you never measure up to the image that we hold in our head? 

Why are we constantly searching for perfection that is unattainable? I use to think it was only me who beat the crap out of myself on a regular basis until I heard a friend of mine pick herself apart when I thought she looked beautiful. So the question is "Are we ever enough and will we ever be truly satisfied with how you look?"

Yes I can not deny that the media, television, and magazines have only served to make us all feel like we could all use a little work. But there is a difference between what we could use as a little inspiration to get our butts up off the couch and to get to the gym than obsessing over every morsel that we put in our mouths, becoming a gym rat 24/7 and putting plastic surgery on Santa's Wish List so that we may one day look like your favorite model or actress who was born genetically blessed, where her body is her business and she spends a fortune on it.

As mere mortals and as working women and mothers is it wrong to want to look better? I say absolutely no it is not. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel beautiful, powerful, sexy, pretty, flirty, fun and on occasion down right gorgeous. What always amazes me is how far we really are from that? How could you possibly think that constantly tearing yourself down could get you a step closer? How far off is your vision of reality to how you really look? Do you even notice what makes you beautiful?

Blaming the other sex for being attracted to a gorgeous women is a little harsh. There is nothing wrong with a little appreciation for a pretty women. The question is how do you react when that happens. Do you agree that she is fabulous? Do you pick her apart and disagree out loud or in your head, so you feel better about yourself? or do you hold her as another woman who makes you feel inferior and you hate yourself a little more for not being that pretty?  Why do we all have to feel like we are in competition? I mean if its suppose to be that the best body who wins then are we all losers if we are swimsuit models or Victoria Secret models? Right?

It is how we perceive ourself that matters. It is what we tell ourselves that makes a difference. It is making an effort to put your best face forward every day. When you can do that, when you can learn to like yourself for who you are and be proud of the life and the body you have built, everything sort of falls into place in your life. It rarely happens in reverse. Learn to love the body, the curves and not so great parts of yourself first. No one says you can't work hard to change them, its just not worth ruining your life over and obsessing over to the point that you feel less than you are.

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The Difference Between Happy and Happier

What is happiness? And who is to say what is happy for one person - is happy for another? I have spent my entire life searching for happiness in all the wrong places. I always thought I'd be happy when I had a laundry list of things including a husband, a home, a family, etc... The problem is when you make happy unattainable. How are you suppose to ever find it? And, if you do find it will you even recognize it when you have it?

On my quest for happiness I actually achieved all the things that I thought would make me happy but I was further away from the "happiness" than I ever had been. So now what? Where do you go from getting it completely backwards to finding that illusive thing called happiness?  I believe happiness comes from being true to you. No one can make you happy, no matter how hard they try. Sure they can create magic moments and show you glimpses of happiness but it doesn't last. And, how could it be anyone else's responsibility to make you happy?

Being happy comes from inside you. Happiness is a feeling, it is a state of being and it's what you tell yourself everyday. If you tell yourself that you are happy, eventually you will train yourself to feel that everyday. And, if you tell yourself your not, that no one can ever make you happy, that life is not fair, then you know what - you are right. Whatever you tell yourself, you are right. It's where you live your life in your head is what is your truth.

If you give up pieces of you for another, that's not how you find happiness. You can't turn yourself inside out and upside down to the point that you lose sight of what's truly important to you and who you are. Losing yourself or reinventing yourself in the name of happiness for another doesn't lead you to the path of happiness for either of you.

Happiness only comes when you finally figure out who you are, what you want, what you stand for and you accept that. You don't make excuses for who you are, you work on being the best you, you can be. It's your job to recognize what brings a smile to your face like a manicure and pedicure, a great cup of coffee, a phone call with a great friend, a movie, a day at the beach, writing in a journal are all examples of things that make me happy. The thing is I always had a disconnect, I never realized that, that is happy and that I am happy.

I always thought that being happy was connected to being in a committed relationship with that special person. I had equated happiness to another and truth is, that's not fair. How could anyone know what happiness means to me, when I didn't even know? The answer is he couldn't and it’s not his job. It's mine. He is responsible for tipping the scales and making me "ER" happier, but he is not responsible for making me happy. He is the icing on the cake, but he can't be the cake.

So find out what makes you happy and enjoy your life and live your life in a better head space, it makes a world of difference. And be grateful for the special people in your life and appreciate them and realize your role in their life is to be the "ER" to them, never the happy.

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